![]() We think the present is not perfect enough: it is either to hot or too cold or we planned for a beautiful picnic but the sky is grey and cloudy. We do not want our new car to get scratched, so we keep in the garage.Ĭraving and aversion are two sides of the same coin, reflecting a fundamental dissatisfaction with the way things are right now. We fear our partner will leave us, so sacrifice our own integrity to get them to stay. We do not want to get sick so we take vitamins and fuel a billion dollar supplement industry. And on and on.Īversion fuels much of our behavior. This makes us sleepy so we have a cup of coffee. The water reminds us of our empty stomach so we eat a big breakfast. We wake up thirsty so take a big drink of water. Many people think they are seeking happiness when in reality they are running from a perpetual state of dissatisfaction. On the aversion side, we are always running away from something. We see a commercial for a robot vacuum or a new piece of exercise equipment, and think “Wow, if I had that, I would truly be happy.” We want the bigger house, faster computer, and newest phone. We want to be thinner, stronger, or better looking. We want our boss to be nicer and our partner to truly understand us. We want to be paid more for our jobs, while also not wanting to have a job in the first place. In terms of craving, the average person wants so much. This is the duality of being caught between craving and aversion, concepts many meditation communities are intimately familiar with. They either desire more of something or want less of something else. Most people are not satisfied with the way things are. The resistance that I speak of has to do with our desires for things to be a certain way. Resistance is the root of all of our suffering, and, if we are able to fully let go of any resistance at all, we will be put on the path of spiritual awakening and, in turn, discover the truth of unconditional love. It prevents us from being happy, finding peace, and reaching enlightenment. This is a big topic that can get confusing for a lot of people, so it deserves its own post.ī efore we get into unconditional love, though, we have to talk about resistance, because resistance is what truly gets in the way of loving unconditionally. I also mentioned that this perspective also puts us on a path to unconditional love. Last week, I wrote about the basic idea that you cannot love someone and try to change them at the same time, because if you are trying to change someone, you aren’t really loving them you are just loving parts of them. ![]()
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